Nedra Glover Tawwab: Why Mothers Feel So Resentful (And The Boundaries That Change Everything)
Do you ever find yourself saying yes when you desperately want to say no? Feeling resentful, overwhelmed or taken for granted, but not quite sure why?
In this week's Motherkind episode, Zoe sits down with therapist, bestselling author and boundaries expert Nedra Glover Tawwab to explore why so many mothers struggle to set healthy boundaries—and how learning to do so can transform every relationship in your life.
Together, they unpack why resentment is often a sign that a boundary is missing, how motherhood changes our friendships, and why boundaries aren't about controlling other people—they're about honouring your own needs. Nedra also answers real questions from the Motherkind community, covering everything from asking for help without micromanaging, navigating difficult family dynamics, setting boundaries with grandparents and in-laws, managing work expectations, and protecting your time without feeling guilty.
If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, found yourself carrying the invisible mental load, or wondered why you're constantly feeling frustrated or emotionally exhausted, this conversation will leave you with practical scripts, compassionate insights and simple tools you can start using today.
💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why resentment is one of the biggest signs that a boundary is missing
What healthy boundaries actually are (and what they aren't)
Practical scripts to help you set boundaries without guilt
How to ask for help without micromanaging your partner or family
How motherhood changes friendships—and how to reconnect
What to do when someone repeatedly ignores your boundaries
How to navigate boundaries at work without feeling like you're letting people down
Why boundaries strengthen relationships rather than damage them
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Key Topics
Boundaries • Healthy relationships • Maternal resentment • People pleasing • Motherhood • Mental load • Emotional labour • Asking for help • Family boundaries • Grandparents • In-laws • Friendships after motherhood • Work boundaries • Working motherhood • Self-worth • Communication • Assertiveness • Mother's guilt • Emotional wellbeing • Burnout • Self-care • Relationship advice • Personal growth • Modern motherhood