PEP TALK | Why You’re So Hard on Yourself (And How to Stop)

If December already feels like ‘too much’, this pep talk is your permission slip to breathe again.

This month can feel like the mental load Olympics for mothers—pressure, perfectionism, school events, work deadlines, matching pyjamas, curated magic… and somehow we’re meant to smile through it.

In the second of our December pep talks, Zoe shares five powerful steps to help you stop being so hard on yourself and bring the pressure down.

In this pep talk, Zoe covers:

• Why you’re not failing – December really is intense

• How to drop the “Good Mum Myth” and stop comparing yourself to an imaginary perfect mother
  The simple mindset shift that reduces self-criticism instantly

• Why lowering the bar actually raises connection with your children

• Tiny, nervous-system resets to help you stay grounded through the chaos

This December, be softer with yourself. Let something go on purpose. Choose connection over perfection. Your children won’t remember the wrapping paper, the curated Santa visit, or whether you had it all together.

They’ll remember how it felt to be with you ♥️

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