In today’s episode, I talk with Katherine Woodward Thomas to discuss how we can transform the process of ending a relationship, and how by doing this we can improve the impact and outcomes this will have on our children, and ourselves.
Katherine has authored two best-selling books, including “Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After”, and is also a qualified marriage and family therapist. Her influential ‘Conscious Uncoupling’ method quickly rose to worldwide fame after Gwyneth Paltrow’s endorsement.
This episode is particularly relevant to so many mums who may be going through a marriage or
relationship breakdown. Katherine explains with insight, expertise and personal experience of how we can live ‘happily even after’ a breakup, and vitally how a child can feel held within a family rather being negatively impacted.
What we cover;
- How it’s actually unresolved tension through parents that negatively impacts children rather
than divorce itself, and why it’s HOW we part ways that’s the crucial factor.
- What exactly Conscious Uncoupling is, and how it can help us during such a difficult time to
minimise damage to ourselves and our children, and how it can be used to create a ‘happily
even after’ family.
- Katherine explains how her child still feels held within the family unit post-divorce,
and the vital importance of the adults doing the adjusting, rather than the children.
- How Conscious Uncoupling can make sure emotions don’t become destructive following a
relationship ending, and the importance of understanding the difference between effective
and ineffective suffering.
For further information please see Katherine’s website;
Katherine has also written two bestselling books, Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living
Happily Even After and the national bestseller Calling in “The One.”
6:10 What Conscious Uncoupling is, and how Katherine came to discover it.
12:24 The first step in Conscious Uncoupling
14:40 Dealing with someone else’s emotions and rage following a break up
18:42 The importance of aligning your community following a breakup
20:12 The ‘Soul mate’ to ‘Soul hate’ transition and how this is nature’s trick to keep us bonded
22:17 A child’s home is the family
22:33 How Katherine’s daughter feels held within the family post-divorce and the importance of
the adults doing the adjusting rather than the children.
25:35 Why Katherine became a therapist and Katherine’s mission today.
29:25 The necessity of being conscious of the questions you’re asking yourself following a breakup,
and being aware of asking ‘what is wrong with me?’
35:10 How time poor and busy mum’s can do inner work following a breakup, and the importance
of having somebody to work with.
39:43 Empowered meaning; what are you making the break up mean about you?
40:54 Becoming a love alchemist, and how to be an even after family
48:30 How would Katherine define a successful marriage?
51:52 Conscious Uncoupling rituals and ending a relationship with love
55:40 If Katherine could gift all the mum’s in the world one thing, what would it be?