Episode 34: Therapy, self-acceptance and gratitude with Freddie Harrel

Freddie Harrel is a prominent style blogger (having won Cosmopolitan Influencer of the Year ’18), confidence coach, entrepreneur and mum to a young son. Freddie has an amazing vibrancy and energy about her, which really comes through in our chat.

We discuss:

• Her journey from corporate finance to fashion blogging, and how this mirrored her personal growth from self-hatred to self-acceptance.

• The vital role therapy played in allowing her to understand the different aspects of herself that allowed her flourish in all aspects of her life, and overcome self-hatred.

• The spiritual practices she uses today, including gratitude, journaling and law of attraction principles to manifest the energy and situations she wants in her life.

• Motherhood and guilt, particularly the guilt associated through working through pregnancy and early motherhood.

• Recognising our individual strengths as mums and  how it’s good to acknowledge that we are sometimes better with children at different stages of their lives.

Freddie:

Freddieharrel.com

@freddieharrel on Instagram

Freddie Harrel Timestamps

03:20 Why the summer is a transitional period for Freddie

04:53 Tools she uses to grow during challenging summer period

06:42 Freddie’s meditation practice

08:20 The consequences of Freddie missing her meditation

08:40 Self-hatred and the relationship Freddie has with herself

10:17 How has self-hatred manifested for Freddie?

11:48 Her career journey from banking to fashion blogging

15:20 How she transformed from self-hating to becoming her true self

19:00 Therapy and the origins of her blog

22:45 Freddie’s spiritual practice

26:25 the power of asking the universe for what you want and gratitude

28:03 Guilt and motherhood

33:05 Social media and the impact on expectations

37:21 What has Freddie’s child taught her about herself?

41:20 What we can learn from children

44:30 What Freddie is currently working on, personally and professionally

49:25 If you could give all the mum’s in the world one thing, what would it be and why?

Episode 33: how to find and listen to your intuition with Pandora Paloma of Rooted London

Pandora Paloma is a Holistic Nutritionist and Life Coach, new mum, and founder of Rooted London. She specialises in women’s health, intuitive eating, and self-love.

In our chat we cover;
- Her experiences of being a new mum, and how she integrated her pre-mum routine into her life as a new mum. 
- Her biggest challenges and what she has learned about herself
since becoming a mum
- How to live intuitively, the importance of giving yourself space to do this and the key element of trust in living an intuitive life. 
- What intuitive eating is and how to practice it. We cover how Pandora eats today, why what we need is constantly changing and how to intuitively know what your body needs. 
- How she put agreements and plans in place before she had her child to ensure that she could maintain self-care and self-love. 
- The self-care and self-love practices she’s using now to stay connected to her true self.

Time Stamps
03:20 Pandora’s background and Rooted London
04:30 Her route into her current work
05:53 What she has learnt about herself through healing herself
07:20 How she has learnt to love herself
10:44 Integrating pre-mum routine into post-mum life
15:12 Boundaries and her daughter
15:52 Pandora’s biggest challenge since becoming a mum
18:50 What she has learnt about herself since becoming a mum
19:40 Mother’s intuition
27:30 Keeping yourself high on priority list
30:00 Self-love is everything

34:55 Pandora’s ‘No Rules’ eating philosophy
38:16 Intuition and Trust
41:02 If you could give all mums in world one thing, what would it be and why?

www.rootedlondon.com/

Episode 32: Peanut co-founder Michelle Kennedy on motherhood and entrepreneurship

Michelle is mum to a four-year-old son and co-founder of Peanut, the ‘tinder for mums’. Michelle was incredibly honest, open and humble - I still can't believe her answer when I asked 'do you feel successful?'.....

What we discuss:

- The parallels between motherhood and start-up businesses
- Perfectionism and Michelle’s mind-shift to ‘done is better than perfect’ 
- The ‘why’ behind Michelle’s vision with Peanut.
- Her superstitions and how she’s using visualisation to overcome them.

Time Stamps
05:00 Why Michelle started Peanut
07:43 the similarity between start-ups and motherhood
10:15 how she copes when things hurt her personally
13:45 Michelle’s parenting style with her son
18:11 realising the detriment of perfectionism
23:33 Michelle’s why
28:57 Superstitions and how she’s overcoming them
33:43 What you shouldn’t say to children
35:24 Sleep therapy
39:27 If you could gift all the mother’s in the world one thing, what would it be and why?

Download Peanut from the App Store and Google Play

Episode 31: Suzy Ashworth on unconditional love, self-care and living from the inside

Suzy Ashworth is a business and mindset coach to female entrepreneurs, Founder of the Calm Birth School, a Hay House Author, mum to four children, as well as being a speaker with Tedx. 

We cover:

• Her journey of personal development which started twenty years ago, and how she started moving away from a disconnected life.

• Her work with a parenting coach and the profound take-away lessons from this.

• How her step-son moving back in with her family taught her lessons on unconditional love.

• The vital importance of her morning routine, and what she’s like without it!

• Why she recommends that everyone should have a daily routine of self-car

Suzy’s website: http://suzyashworth.com/

Check out Suzy's signature programme http://suzyashworth.com/limitless/

Episode 30: Clemmie Telford on therapy, anxiety and being present

Clemmie Telford is a mum of 3, creative strategist and blogger. She started her incredibly popular blog, Mother of All Lists during her second maternity leave. 

What we cover
- How she manages to stay present with three children to be the best mum she can be, and her ‘no phone’ rule
- How Clemmie found her recovery period from her third child
- Why couples’ therapy is so important
- Clemmie talks openly on her own struggles with anxiety, including those surrounding birth
and being a mum.
- What Clemmie has learnt about herself through parenting

Clemmie’s blog, a collection of lists about parenting and beyond, can be found at:
https://motherofalllists.com/
Twitter: @clemmie_telford
Instagram: @clemmie_telford

Episode 29: Madeline Shaw on intuition, healthy eating and switching off

Madeline Shaw is one of the UK's best-known wellbeing influencers, she is a yoga teacher, health coach, and qualified nutritionist. She's written 3 best selling cookbooks (all of which I have and recommend). She's also mum to a gorgeous 10-month-old boy. So yes, I ask her how she fits it all in!

Chatting with Madeline was a joy, she knowledgeable, fun, wise and kind - we cover so much in our chat....highlights include:

- Her experience of motherhood, the newborn phase, breastfeeding and learning to listen to her intuition
- Being a working mum and guilt
- Routines and rituals - including how she manages her phone use
- Easy to implement, quick and effective healthy eating tips: meal prep and healthy snacking
- Madeleine’s greatest challenges as a mum so far
- Madeleine’s own experiences of childhood, and what she will pass on to her son

Madeleine can be contacted at http://madeleineshaw.com/ and @madeleine_shaw_ on Instagram.

Time stamps
4:03 How Madeleine found the newborn phase and how trusting her intuition proved right
06:54 Madeleine’s experience of the challenge of expectations as a mum
10:20 Why Madeleine loves positive affirmations
12:33 The comparison trap and social media
15:05 Madeleine’s childcare setup and why she feels no guilt about it

19:40 Morning routines and their benefits
25:20 Madeleine’s tips for adopting a healthier diet
32:50 Experiences of anxiety as a mum
34:00 Madeleine’s greatest challenge so far as a mum
35:20 what values does Madeleine want to take from her own family and give to her son?
39:30 How Madeleine is working on her morning routine
47:00 If Madeleine could gift all the mum’s in the world one thing, what would it be and why?

Episode 28: ending a relationship when children are involved with Katherine Woodward Thomas

In today’s episode, I talk with Katherine Woodward Thomas to discuss how we can transform the process of ending a relationship, and how by doing this we can improve the impact and outcomes this will have on our children, and ourselves.

Katherine has authored two best-selling books, including “Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After”, and is also a qualified marriage and family therapist. Her influential ‘Conscious Uncoupling’ method quickly rose to worldwide fame after Gwyneth Paltrow’s endorsement. 

This episode is particularly relevant to so many mums who may be going through a marriage or
relationship breakdown. Katherine explains with insight, expertise and personal experience of how we can live ‘happily even after’ a breakup, and vitally how a child can feel held within a family rather being negatively impacted. 

What we cover;
- How it’s actually unresolved tension through parents that negatively impacts children rather
than divorce itself, and why it’s HOW  we part ways that’s the crucial factor.
- What exactly Conscious Uncoupling is, and how it can help us during such a difficult time to
minimise damage to ourselves and our children, and how it can be used to create a ‘happily
even after’ family.
- Katherine explains how her child still feels held within the family unit post-divorce,
and the vital importance of the adults doing the adjusting, rather than the children.
- How Conscious Uncoupling can make sure emotions don’t become destructive following a
relationship ending, and the importance of understanding the difference between effective
and ineffective suffering.

For further information please see Katherine’s website;
http://katherinewoodwardthomas.com/

Katherine has also written two bestselling books, Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living
Happily Even After and the national bestseller Calling in “The One.”
Time Stamps

6:10 What Conscious Uncoupling is, and how Katherine came to discover it.
12:24 The first step in Conscious Uncoupling
14:40 Dealing with someone else’s emotions and rage following a break up

18:42 The importance of aligning your community following a breakup
20:12 The ‘Soul mate’ to ‘Soul hate’ transition and how this is nature’s trick to keep us bonded
22:17 A child’s home is the family
22:33 How Katherine’s daughter feels held within the family post-divorce and the importance of
the adults doing the adjusting rather than the children.
25:35 Why Katherine became a therapist and Katherine’s mission today.
29:25 The necessity of being conscious of the questions you’re asking yourself following a breakup,
and being aware of asking ‘what is wrong with me?’
35:10 How time poor and busy mum’s can do inner work following a breakup, and the importance
of having somebody to work with.
39:43 Empowered meaning; what are you making the break up mean about you?
40:54 Becoming a love alchemist, and how to be an even after family
48:30 How would Katherine define a successful marriage?
51:52 Conscious Uncoupling rituals and ending a relationship with love
55:40 If Katherine could gift all the mum’s in the world one thing, what would it be?

Episode 27: how being kind to ourselves can transform our parenting with Dr Kristin Neff

In this particularly insightful episode, I am joined by Dr. Kristin Neff PHD to explore self-compassion, and how we can use this practice to radically improve our parenting and relationships with our children, as well as our relationship with ourselves.
Kristin is a world renowned psychologist, and the world’s leading expert on self-compassion, as well as being the very first person to operationally define self-compassion. She had a hugely successful and well-received Ted Talk, and has written numerous books on the topic.

As Mums we will all recognise how hard we can be ourselves, whilst at the same time being so kind and compassionate to others, so talking with Kristin was particularly enlightening, as she explains how this one practice can have a really significant positive effect on your life and parenting.

What we cover:
- How Kristin became interested in self-compassion, and what motivated her to dedicate her
life’s work to understanding and developing this practice.

- What self-compassion really is, why it isn’t self-indulgent or self-pitying, and how the more
we are able to be kind to ourselves, the more other people, including children, can benefit.

- How ‘mirror neurons’ act in a way that being self-compassionate will have a directly positive
effect on your child, and how mums don’t always give themselves permission to be kind to
themselves, but it’s the very best thing to do for you and your child.

- Kristen openly and honestly describes how she used self-compassionate practice to
successfully overcome an incredibly challenging situation with her autistic son, all on a
transatlantic flight!

- Kristin fully addresses the main blocks to self-compassionate practice that many people
have, and explains why self-compassion is the polar opposite of selfishness.

Timestamps
1.0 Introduction to the episode
4.50 What self-compassion is and what it means to Kristin
7.17 Kristin’s path to discovering self-compassion through meditation and Buddhist teachings
8.54 Why we don’t always have the innate ability to be kind to ourselves
13.00 How mother’s have access to the care based system and the importance of giving ourselves
permission to use it with ourselves.
13.35 The main blocks people have to adopting self-compassion and how research shows all these
to be misconceptions.

15.05 Why it’s not just what you face in life, but how you relate to yourself when times are
difficult, that’s important.
17.40 How being a self-compassionate parent can directly influence your parenting
19.27 Why it’s not selfish to give yourself compassion.
21.30 ‘Mirror neurons’ and how children pick up on our mind-state and how self-compassion can
directly benefit our children
24.00 The inherently reciprocal nature of self-compassion
26.20 How to overcome blocks you may encounter when becoming self-compassionate
29.10 Kristin’s self-compassionate workbook
31:14 Exercises to develop your own self-compassion practice.
38.19 Why self-compassion is not self-pity
42:28 Kristin’s one gift to all the mothers in the world.

For more on Dr Kristin Neff, please see;
self-compassion.org/
The fantastic books she has authored including ‘Self compassion’
@self_compassion on twitter
Kristin’s inspirational Tedx Talks at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4

Episode 26: how to love your body (whatever it looks like) with Mel Wells

In this enlightening episode I am joined by Mel Wells to discuss all things body image, self-love and energy.

Mel is the UK’s leading eating psychology and self-love expert, bestselling author of the ‘Goddess Revolution’ and a renowned speaker.

Mel frankly and openly shares her story with eating disorders, food, body image and self-love and describes exactly what made her want to make a change.

Mel shares her expertise and wisdom on how we can change our relationship with food, improve our energy, practice self-love and ultimately bring about a total mind shift in how we view ourselves. 

I often hear mums describe their struggles with body image following having a child, and so this episode is incredibly helpful and relevant to so many mums with issues surrounding food, diet and body image.

We cover in depth the issue of how we can love our bodies even though they may look different post children and provide a toolkit for completely changing not only your relationship with food, but also with yourself.

What we cover: 

• Mel’s own story; eating disorders, relationships, food, exercise, diets and how one thought changed everything.

• The biggest problem facing mums and body image issues, and why we’re often asking the wrong question.

• How changing the way we talk to ourselves can directly change our energy levels.

• The most important things to do when you want to make a change to how you view yourself, your body and your relationship with food.
• How we should teach our children, especially girls, about body image and eating.

Timestamps

3:20 Mel’s journey and how she came to share her positive message with the world.

7:48 What the first thing Mel did when she said she wanted to change.

11:25 The significance of Mel referring to her body as ‘Her’.

13:32 Key considerations for exercise, why we must look at our motivation behind it.

16:42 What would Mel say to someone wanting to get pre-baby body back.

18:16 The four seasons of womanhood

20:35 How someone starts to feel good psychologically about body image after pregnancy.

23:41 Mums, energy and how to boost your energy levels.

26:00 Law of attraction and how to generate energy.

27:30 Mel’s intuitive approach to eating and how to be in communication with body.

30:48 What should we be teaching younger girls and the impact of social media

34:10 For someone who wants to change, key considerations

38:32 It’s not just about the recipes

39:15 Mel’s Self-Love Summit

40:15 One thing Mel would give to all mums.

To find out more about Mel Wells, visit https://melwells.com and ‘iammelwells’ (Instagram).

Mel hosts events on a regular basis, and is hosting the first Self-Love summit on 28th July 2018, which is ‘A 1 Day Women’s only empowerment event dedicated to revealing the most unapologetic, untamed version of YOU’. For more information please see https://melwells.com.

Episode 25: Careers, crossroads and guilt with Alice and Phanella - The Step Up Club

This week's episode is with founders of the Step Up Club, Alice Olins and Phanella Mayall Fine. The Step Up Club is a modern voice in the women's career conversation, in fact, Stylist Magazine said "it's the only voice to listen to in the women's career sphere".

In this wide-ranging conversation, we chat about everything from their career stories, working mum guilt, career crossroads, confidence and validation. So if you're working and it isn't working or you want to be working - then this episode is for you. Enjoy.

PS. Alice and Phanella have just launched an amazing online version of their in-person Step Up School and are offering Motherkind listeners 15% off. Just use the code SUSMOTHERKIND at www.stepupschool.co/

step-up-club.net/step-up-school/
Instagram: @thestepupclub

Episode 24: Emine Rushton on slowing down and being present

Episode 24 is with Eminé Rushton who is wellbeing director-at-large at my favourite magazine, PSYCHOLOGIES, and Creative Director of conscious consultancy, LEAF.

She is also a trained holistic facial therapist and is studying for a diploma in Vedic Healing. She has been living in accordance with Ayurvedic wisdom for almost 10 years, and her first book, The Body Balance Plan, introduced people to Vedic science in a liveable and practical way.

She lives in Kent with her two children and husband, and blogs about her holistic wellbeing journey at www.balanceplan.co.uk.

We chat about: 
- trusting the timing of life
- going back to work when her first child was very young
- slowing down
- being a present, working parent
- ayurvedic living

Hope you enjoy the episode
www.balanceplan.co.uk.

Episode 23: Michelle Cottle (AKA Dear Orla) on parenting after loss

This week I'm chatting with a very special lady, Michelle Cottle, about baby loss, parenting after loss, PND and how she set up her popular blog called Dear Orla. She is incredibly inspiring and has now raised over 20k for Tommy's Charity!

Michelle and I chat about what it was like to lose Orla at 37 weeks, being pregnant again with Esme, post natal depression, blogging and working as a psychologist.

Hope you enjoy the episode.

dear-orla.com/

Episode 22: being gentle, stress and maintaining energy with Henrietta Norton

Henrietta Norton is a registered nutritional therapist, she's been practicing for over 13 years and is a specialist in women's and children's health. She is also the founder of Wild Nutrition, which is an award-winning supplement company.

Henrietta and I chat about: 
- her story and how endometriosis lead her to train as a nutritional therapist
- stress, modern life and motherhood
- supplements and the importance of 'food state' 
- how we can maintain energy as busy mums

Henrietta has kindly gifted listeners a FREE e-book on stress which you can download here 

www.wildnutrition.com/pages/our-founder

Bonus Episode: Women supporting women with founder of Our Mala, Emily Brett

I'm so happy to bring you a BONUS EPISODE this week. It's with the amazing Emily Brett who founded Our Mala. Our Mala is a charity that offers trauma-informed yoga for people who are refugees.

I cried so much during our chat, the stories that Emily shares really touched my heart and I know they will touch yours too.

If you're inspired to get involved, you can learn more about Our Mala here www.ourmala.com/ and the crowdfunding here www.crowdfunder.co.uk/happy-baby-community

Episode 21: how to find love as a single mum with Persia Lawson

Calling all the single mums! (or anyone looking for more love in their life....) 
This episode is with 'one of the UK's top love coaches' (The Times) Persia Lawson. Persia's work has been featured in Vogue, The Telegraph, Cosmo and You magazine to name a few.

Persia and I chat about: 
- her story and journey from being a serial cheater to healing herself from the inside and today being in a fulfilling, committed relationship
- how to heal your past to start afresh
- how to find love again by first loving yourself
- when to introduce your new partner to your children

You can find Persia at www.persialawson.com 
She has also just released a FREE 3 part video training series to help you attract a healthy, soulful, lasting relationship, it's amazing training and jam-packed with advice and tools grab it free here persialawson.lpages.co/3-part-video-…es-lead-page/

Episode 20: living a fertile life with Emma Cannon

Emma Cannon is a fertility and women’s health expert, registered acupuncturist, founder of the Emma Cannon Clinic, and a mentor and speaker. With over 20 years in clinical practice, from her fertility rooms she has helped countless patients achieve their dream of having a family. She is the author of four books including the best-selling The Baby Making Bible. Her fifth book, FERTILE, was published in March 2017.

Even if you've never struggled with fertility this podcast will still educate and inspire. Emma's and I chat about living a 'fertile life' replacing lack with abundance and barren thinking with fertile thinking.....

Want to know what the 50,000 women she has worked with have in common? 
Or what Emma is teaching her daughters about fertility and women's health? 
Hear what Emma thinks are the 5 pillars of living a fertile life and how we can implement them in our lives

Emma's website is www.emmacannon.co.uk and she is kindly offering listeners of this podcast 10% off her new course '90 days to fertile' just enter the code motherkind10 at checkout.

Episode 19: postnatal depression and living in the solution with Amy Ransom

Episode 19 is with Amy Ransom, who is a mum of 3, writes the successful blog 'Surviving Motherhood' and is author of 'The New Mum's Notebook' - a sanity saving journal for new mums.

Amy is an incredible woman, full of energy, wisdom and honesty about her experiences with postnatal depression and anxiety. She's really open and honest about her journey, which is incredibly inspiring, as it led to her blog and then book being published. We chat about;

- Saying no to 'shoulds' and doing things her way
- Postnatal depression and her recovery journey
- The New Mums Notebook
- Living in the solution - therapy, meditation, running

Hope you enjoy the episode. 
Amy can be found at @survivingmotherhood_

Episode 18: the truth about balancing our hormones with Angelique Panagos

Episode 18 is with Angelique Panagos - nutritional therapist and female hormone expert. Angelique has a private practice in London and her book 'The Balance Plan' came out in June 2017. Her philosophy is that food is healing and nourishing, affecting each cell in our body - impacting our lives, bodies, emotions, and even our thoughts.

Angelique and I chat about: 
- her story and recovery from eating disorders
- balancing hormones and her 6 pillars of recovery
- the first year of motherhood
- tiredness and the effect it has on our bodies

Hope you enjoy the episode

www.angeliquepanagos.com/

Episode 17: sober living with Clare Pooley

This week's episode is with Clare Pooley, author of the hugely successful 'The Sober Diaries - How one woman stopped drinking and started living'.

Clare found the juggle of a stressful career and family life a struggle so she left her successful role as a Managing Partner in one of the world's biggest advertising agencies to look after her family. She knew the change wouldn't be easy but she never expected to find herself drinking more than a bottle of wine a day. The book is her journey back to herself, through getting sober and is an inspiring, funny and poignant story of living life to the full.

We chat about: 
- when to consider stopping drinking
- how she knew she had a problem
- what she learned about herself through sobriety
- her sober social life
- sober parenting

Hope you enjoy it, to accompany the episode I've written about my own experience of sobriety over on the blog www.motherkind.co/blog-1/

Episode 16: Embracing imperfection and feeling feelings with Katie Abbott

This episode is with the amazing Katie Abbott who has worked as a Therapist and Coach from 1 Harley St for the past 10 years and is also the Founder of Pause Place, the first Certified Coach Training dedicated to the strength of love, presence and connection.

Katie is a mum of 2 and we chat about embracing imperfection, connection, feeling feelings and being an empath.

Katie runs retreats in Italy and India and runs regular events for both Shoreditch and Soho House in London. This year, Pause Place will take place at the newly launched 42 Acres in Shoreditch and will run from May-October. If you are interested please visit www.pauseplace.com to discover more.